Helping and Discussion Board for Ex-JWs

revised plans :-)

feeds@yuku.com (Ronnie45) — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 12:03:09 GMT

I didn't know whether best to post this here or on the announcements board, but this will work good I think...

I know it might have been hard to miss the post that was up the other day about the site winding down....

Without going into all the details, there's been a change of plans I'm very happy to say.

It is for a lot of reasons that we are staying around for the long term.
Just one is I could relate to people's posts about the site here...

Cult?

feeds@yuku.com (moonbird) — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 11:08:38 GMT

What are JW's told to say when accused of being in a cult? (They must hear it all the time.)

Something went horribly wrong...

feeds@yuku.com (zeroday) — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 19:15:29 GMT

Honestly I don't know what but it all went wrong. I look back and can not exactly say when it went wrong but it did. There are points in life when you say, "what if"...When I was 21 I tried to join the Air Force and for some reason I failed the physical they wouldn't say why...I think that was my "point" for shortly after I began studying with the JW's...so few times in life we can look back and say, "that was it" and it was for me for that decision...

Quick Question

feeds@yuku.com (Ben) — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 14:57:17 GMT

I heard a rumor and it's from an unreliable source that the term "disfellowshipping" is no longer used but has been replaced entirely by the term "disassociation". It this is true, it must be a recent thing. Anyone know? Thanks.

College?

feeds@yuku.com (moonbird) — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 10:34:07 GMT

My granddaughter wants to be a teacher and my grandson wants to be a veterinarian. They're really young, so I assume these things will change - though I have to say, my granddaughter is a "natural-born" teacher. I can totally see her in the role!
I've heard that college is discouraged. Is it true? Do they say, "okay, okay, you can be a teacher" up until they graduate from high school, or do they discourage them as children?
Or do some JW's go to college?

A blog for ex-witnesses or witnesses wishing to move on

feeds@yuku.com (Browny X) — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 07:51:00 GMT

Hello all I'm new to this forum, its fantastic to see such a forum in place and been fascinated reading through as an ex-witness myself. I hope you don't mind me posting this, I've been writing a blog recently as an ex-witness on the research I've been doing into the organisation on its doctrinal laws and changes, along with my own personal experiences and observations. It factual when it comes to the research and is by no means a 'slating' session of the witnesses but...

If your JW father says he hates you and doesnt consider you his son would you still attend his funeral?

feeds@yuku.com (chrisjoel) — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 13:46:21 GMT

Its a touchy subject so i understand any reluctance in answering...

My father has told me over and over that he has 2 sons that he loves, but me, the one no longer a JW, he says "stinks" and doesnt consider me his son, as Im a traitor.Any love i had for the guy has disappeared really . The only thing he can do when he sees me is fight. ...Iv lost all desire to show him any love.

Thing is he is in his early 70s and if he were to pass on I have so much animosity...

dissasociation vs. disfellowship

feeds@yuku.com (myownsunshine) — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 10:27:35 GMT

okay, so i really want to put in a letter of dissasociation. i know i want nothing to do with this religion ever again. i am not going to subject myself, my husband, and our future children to the pain, judgement, mind control, and lies of the organization and i want them to know exactly what i think of their religion and why i am no longer under its power.

the only thing holding me back is my mom dad and brother. the others i know... if they're real friends they'll still...

Simpsons episode draws an interesting parallel

feeds@yuku.com (Outcast) — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 02:57:26 GMT

I remember this episode of the Simpsons called "The Joy of Sect", and it's about all of Springfield joining a cult called the Movementarians. All these people were brought into this room with benches where they all had to watch a video about how they would all be taken to a planet called Blisstonia aboard a spaceship. Anyways some people weren't really impressed, and the first time somebody got up to leave the video stopped, a spotlight would shine on the person. Then a...

PLease Read and comment

feeds@yuku.com (ihaveaquestion) — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 20:57:19 GMT

If you want to help me, please read all. But I will start off by saying I want to become a JW, and am yet to see solid criticisms of the group.

Here is my reasoning. I've done alot of selfish things in my life. I've also done some homosexual things, and consider myself to be gay or bisexual. I do not think homosexuality is a mortal sin, or that one will burn in hell for it, but I do think living that lifestyle can lead to lots of selfish acts. I also think a heterosexual...

If it walks like a duck . . . .

feeds@yuku.com (LovesBulldogs) — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 13:55:49 GMT

My son turned 17 on Friday. He was at his JW dads house after school. When he came home he was sporting a new hoodie, a new t-shirt, had money his grandma gave him and even brought home part of a cake. What was the occasion? Where is JW family members celebrating his birthday?? Heaven forbid! No, they were "celebrating" him passing his drivers test ONE YEAR EARLIER! They told my son they didn't get around to celebrating it until then - so they remembered to celebrate it...

Do JW's know everything?

feeds@yuku.com (moonbird) — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 13:43:13 GMT

JW's believe that they are the only denomination that knows the truth?
It comes from the WBTS, right?
How do they come by this truth/knowledge?
Do they believe that, by reading enough publications, individuals can know and understand everything?

(I came to the conclusion long ago that no church is...

Have you ever had one of those moments, when some thing odd hits you?

feeds@yuku.com (Irish Rose) — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 01:39:42 GMT

I don't know if it is because I now have more time to actually think than I use to. First it was all the crap in the JW world that did not give me much time for that. Then I had two children, not much time for thinking, pondering, meditating, or what ever you call it. But lately I have finally been able to ponder, and think on stuff. Some of it not really that important, and others, well it just depends.

My schedule is way different than most. My husband's work schedule...

i did it again-yeah

feeds@yuku.com (shane) — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 00:00:37 GMT

For those that don't know me, my life has been quite hectic lately and I've been more grumpier than my usual self. So, with that being stated, here I go..... First bout with my father: a couple months ago, I had him cornered in the truck while driving up the road and as we passed a SDA church, I inquired if he knew anything about that particular religion. When he said "not really other than it was a false religion", I informed him that JWs were a quasi sect of them and that...

144,000

feeds@yuku.com (moonbird) — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 10:43:15 GMT

Do people believe that those seats are all taken, or are people still getting in? (Can they "scalp" tickets? jk!)
I had just assumed that the number was reached long ago, but I read somewhere around here that somebody knew one in their KH, so I assume there are "openings" still.
Does one have to be perfect, or just better than anyone else? How would you know, anyway?
These are the "faithful and discreet...

dueling friends

feeds@yuku.com (myownsunshine) — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 19:28:10 GMT

so this may be a rant or a question. not sure where its leading...

this involves me and two other girls; we were all each other's best friends a few years ago, mainly b/c we were all needing someone to support us in our jw teenage rebellion. anywayssss....

I just found out a few days ago tht one of them is rejoining the witnesses. she and i havent been very close the past two years b/c i ratted out her drinking, sex, partying, and the rape tht led to it all b/c she had...

What's up with the Weed??

feeds@yuku.com (BethSarim) — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 09:34:55 GMT

Ok. So me and my husband are making a big effort to reach out to "worldly" people in an effort to make some friends as we have none since leaving the org. I personally have a ton of extended family, cousins, aunts , uncles, etc. that are not in the truth but whom I have avoided most of my life because they were "bad association". Anyways, I recently got back in contact with some of my cousins. Four of them to be exact. What I'm finding out is that pretty much across...

Shock, disbelief.... and maybe a little bit of fright

feeds@yuku.com (hotcommodity21) — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 01:49:38 GMT

So.

My dad has been DF'd for several years now. Actually about 5 years. I remember when he first phoned me to tell me he was DF'd, I was living with my 'worldly' boyfriend and attending college. Dad had been going on about how he dissaproved of the situation for a long time. When he called to tell me about getting DF'd, he said something like 'I was thinking about your situation and how I've been telling you how wrong it is... and I just felt I...

Sending a letter to friends and family (version 2)

feeds@yuku.com (sabastious) — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 22:29:15 GMT

Here's the first thread: http://exjehovahswitnessforum.yuku.com/topic/13057

I havn't sent my letter yet, it's still under revision. I have decided to scrap the last letter and start over lol. Here's the new one:

I am writing you all to give you information about me, so that you have something from me that you can base your opinions and decisions on.
I have...

Just a quick hello

feeds@yuku.com (Cacky) — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 20:00:28 GMT

Going to have to sign off for now. I found out I have pneumonia today. Don't know if that means I'll be on board a lot the next few days or not. I'm pretty tired so not posting a lot.

One of these days I'll post my own story.

Cacky