Coping Board

Leaving for university, Not sure how to tell my mother I don't want to be a JW anymore! Please help...

feeds@yuku.com (TaijiChan) — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 12:22:35 GMT

I apologize in advance if this topic is in the wrong area. I just joined here, so forgive me
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But here's my story...Well I was raised with having numerous bible studies ever since I was 8. My mother, brother and I have had our struggle in life, and we became more settles in life several years ago. So, mum becomes more serious in trying to become a JW, while my brother and I have...

They've been talking about me?

feeds@yuku.com (moonbird) — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 09:36:39 GMT

My grandson, this morning: "Jehovah loves you, even though He hates Christmas." (out of the blue! I don't even have decorations up yet.)

Me: "Well, some Christians don't think He hates Christmas."

Grandson: "Jehovah hates Christmas."

Me: "The Bible doesn't say that."

Grandson: "Jehovah hates Christmas."

Me: (nothing, because I know I've lost the battle.)

Now I'm getting...

I still feel paranoia even after leaving

feeds@yuku.com (Outcast) — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 13:59:46 GMT

I feel like I am really vulnerable and weak even admitting this but I feel very scared because all my life I was taught "as long as you're a witness you're under Jehovah God's protection... but when you've left you're open to attacks by the Satan and his demons,". Of course that's scary as all hell, so I guess this is just another of those sadly overdeveloped human frailties that I have to deal with.

I still believe in the Bible

feeds@yuku.com (Outcast) — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 23:08:30 GMT

Even after my bad experience. I still believe in the Bible, and God as strongly as anyone possibly could. I am afraid I may always be confused though about what if anything God does with us after we die, or if man will eventually achieve peace on his own through reading the Bible. I really don't trust the Witnesses at all, but at least you can always trust the Bible... and you don't need someone to interpret it for you!

Elders are asking for my address

feeds@yuku.com (finallyfree09) — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 05:57:58 GMT

I had an interesting conversation with my mom yesterday. Apparently the elders have been asking for my new address. They want to visit me and my husband. We were attempting reinstatement about 9months ago and just stopped going so the elders are confused and want to encourage us to come back. I have to say the elders at my hall where descent they didn't do anything to make a bad situation worse... they where...

The Latest Sad Episode.

feeds@yuku.com (johphil) — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 15:57:30 GMT

This week John got a message from his father - to come clear everything that was his out of the house.
John had left behind some stuff after being DF'd, and couldn't take it all when he had to leave. A few clothes, some odds and ends, basically an assortment of stuff that you collect over time.
Told he could come and collect it Saturday (yesterday) otherwise it will all be taken to the dump.
They would be out all day...

Some Guidence

feeds@yuku.com (Eddie) — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 02:00:28 GMT

I was sent this and thought the coping board was a good place for it....not just for coyboys.

The cowboy's guide to life:

Most of the stuff people worry about ain't never gonna happen anyway.

Life ain't about how fast you run, or how high you climb, but how well you bounce.

Words that soak into your ears are whispered not yelled.

Life is simpler when you plough around the stump.

Forgive your enemies; it messes...

Thanksgiving

feeds@yuku.com (moonbird) — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 10:08:50 GMT

While I was celebrating my "worldy" holiday, (you know, thanking God for the good things I have, and sharing time with my family), My JW daughter spent the day at an amusement park. WTF?

I know this pales in comparison to other posts, but...

feeds@yuku.com (hotcommodity21) — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 04:04:50 GMT

I joined a men's squash team recently and we play on Sundays. Now every week from Monday to Thursday I am in pain EVERYWHERE! Okay, this probably isn't what the coping board is all about, but...

OW!

Anyone have suggestions for making forearm pain disappear?

I feel like my bones are bruised from the inside out!

Steph

shameful

feeds@yuku.com (armywife2222) — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 16:55:35 GMT

So this is a really great place to vent. I just wanted to tell another one of my stories. So, I am 17 years old and I tell a trusted friend about having sex with my now husband. He proceeds to tell me that he is obligated to tell the elders in my congregation what we have discussed. He goes to the elders in my congregation (which included my grandfather) and tells them about my having sex with my boyfriend. Yes, I should not have opened my huge mouth but I was a teenager in love. Of course I...

x jw army wife

feeds@yuku.com (armywife2222) — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 10:42:53 GMT

Hey everyone! So I grew up as a JW, married an army guy when I was 19, and have been married to his for 4 years now. I moved back home with my parents over the summer (husband and I were separated) its the oddest and most uncomfortable feeling having them leave for the meetings or going out in service and i dont go. The whole situation became unbearable. My father has become more active in their congregation and incessently talks about the congregation and about articles in the watchtower,...

Why am I so concerned with what a bunch of brainwashed cult members think of me??

feeds@yuku.com (BethSarim) — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 09:09:33 GMT

This was a question I posed in another thread and I wanted to get everyones opinion on this one. I am personally at a point where I feel that I've done enough research about this organization that I no longer feel the need to look into it anymore. When it's enough, it's enough. Seriously though, you could probably ask me anything about the organization and I'd know all the answers to it. LOL! Someday in the future I plan on moving on to studying the history of the Bible....

Anxiety

feeds@yuku.com (Odd Dolls) — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 14:34:04 GMT

What do you guys do about anxiety? I am usually good about facing it. I believe that turning and facing the scary thing weakens it and helps me overcome anxiety, gives me strength.

But today for some reason, even though I faced it and made a minor decision (which is all I can do about the situation right now) I still feel anxious. It has to do with our being retired, and it's scary being in new waters.

Nothing seems to be helping my...

Hi! from John and Phil.

feeds@yuku.com (johphil) — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 13:09:42 GMT

Hi all,

Yes it us, John and Phil, the the infamous "Jws videoed"

We have read what has been posted and thank you all for you support, which was passed on to us via Aniron.

So please feel free to ask us anything you like. We are very open and will answer whatever you ask.
Or send a private message.

What next?

feeds@yuku.com (1cookiebear) — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 11:34:07 GMT

Just when I thought I was at rock bottom, things started to turn around. Got a decent job with a great outlook. And along comes Friday the 13th! Yeah, I'll blame it on that. Last night I was hooking up to my trailer, tripped and fell. Damn my arm hurt. So I climbed up into my cab waiting to get loaded, thinking, this feels pretty bad. Naw, its just a sprain it'll go away. About two hours later it was swelling and I noticed my ring finger turning purple. Oh shit, I gotta...

What I have learned...

feeds@yuku.com (xeracia) — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 06:09:59 GMT

So I have been out for ten years. I think I am doing pretty well. I have a lovely family. Two daughters who are beautiful and doing great. My oldest only vaguely remembers going to meetings when she was quite young. So glad that I got them out of there before it ever affected them. We celebrate all the holidays now, and they are a fun time for our family. My family even speaks to me now for the most part. I have an aunt and uncle who still shun me but oh well, #$%^ them!

I decided...

Was I the only crazy kid terrified of possesed dolls?

feeds@yuku.com (juliebooty) — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 09:17:31 GMT

So when I was 4 my parents were having a wonderfully positive story telling event with other JW about the smurfs and other generally demonized toys we should be kept away from as kids. My two sisters and I were in the room hearing stories so scarey, they topped any rated R movies that could have scared us for the night. So scared we had to sleep in the bed with my parents. So scared that when we got home, had to burn all of our suspicious toys. Those stories near 30 years later still ring in...

Is she NUTS!!

feeds@yuku.com (finallyfree09) — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 06:48:56 GMT

I don't know if you all remember my previous post regarding my husband's mother and the terrible visit he had at her home. Well he saw her for the first time in a year she is a devout JW and me and my husband are Df'd. So you all know how that goes.....anyway she was rude and unloving to my husband when he stopped by. He was very upset by this.....then out of blue he gets a email from her. Saying I love...

pycho mother strikes again

feeds@yuku.com (Raijier) — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 23:13:25 GMT

My mom is making me go to meetings again. I'm 18 now, got a job working 48 hours a week and she still says that I HAVE to go to any meeting I can make. Naturally, I said no. First meeting would be tomorrow so ill see what happens. Might be kicked out with nowhere to go :sad:

Had a few days of reflecting..not that good...

feeds@yuku.com (Sue C) — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 02:31:58 GMT

Hey guys..feel a bit silly doin this to you all..but for some reason..have been thinking so much about some of the stories on here..including my own(which is so mild compared to some or most of you)..feel like we are all in some sort of damage control..be it to a more or lesser degree..and it's so unfair, don't you agree that a religion can do that There's so much I'm feeling right...