Coping Board

pycho mother strikes again

feeds@yuku.com (Raijier) — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 23:13:25 GMT

My mom is making me go to meetings again. I'm 18 now, got a job working 48 hours a week and she still says that I HAVE to go to any meeting I can make. Naturally, I said no. First meeting would be tomorrow so ill see what happens. Might be kicked out with nowhere to go :sad:

Had a few days of reflecting..not that good...

feeds@yuku.com (Sue C) — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 02:31:58 GMT

Hey guys..feel a bit silly doin this to you all..but for some reason..have been thinking so much about some of the stories on here..including my own(which is so mild compared to some or most of you)..feel like we are all in some sort of damage control..be it to a more or lesser degree..and it's so unfair, don't you agree that a religion can do that There's so much I'm feeling right...

I don't worship flags!

feeds@yuku.com (moonbird) — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 09:36:56 GMT

I overheard my granddaughter saying, "This is Grandpa's flag. He worships flags." This just infuriates me!

(For those who don't know, I'm not a JW. My daughter joined a few years ago after her husband...

a letter to my dad...I haven't decided whether I will mail it or not

feeds@yuku.com (rb) — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 01:33:55 GMT

November 4, 2009

Dad,

It's been quite a while...

H1N1 vaccine

feeds@yuku.com (Willetfel) — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 16:58:09 GMT

I'm terrified of getting the shot for my kids and for myself and I'm terrified of not getting it, but right now I'm leaning towards not getting it. How about you?

My Husband Visited his Mother (If you want to call her that) she doesn't deserve the title

feeds@yuku.com (finallyfree09) — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 05:51:57 GMT

My husband visited his mother last Friday. We live about 75minutes away from her and he was in the area that day and decided to stop by and see her while he was in town. My husband and I are both Df'd have been for over 5 years. My husbands family has very little contact with us but he still talks to them every 6 months or so. He had not seen his mother since last year.

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my only friend may be dead

feeds@yuku.com (Leotheturtle) — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 14:46:18 GMT

Help! I'm scared

feeds@yuku.com (anonread) — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 10:33:41 GMT

Please help... I'm starting to have a lot of anxiety. My wife and I haven't been going to the meetings for about a month now, and now my "friends" are calling and txting me to see if I am ok. I don't know how long I can hold them off. Should I keep avoiding them? If not, do I tell them I don't believe it anymore? How should I handle this? Any advice would be nice....

Thanks,
Anonread

once healed wounds; fresh again

feeds@yuku.com (oslo) — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 06:34:08 GMT

i just discovered this board yesterday and i have to say, i'm a little confused now.

i was doing research for a class i'm taking (cross-cultural perspectives) and the assignment was about religion in politics. my teacher asked me how my family's religious views influenced their political views. well, obviously their political views are defined by their religious views, but i wanted to do a little research as to why. i've been officially out for 8 years now, so...

friendships

feeds@yuku.com (michele) — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 13:23:20 GMT

Not only am I realizing that the JW's affected my family but it's now affecting my friendships even though I have nothing to do with them and neither do my friends. I'm very independant and don't require to be around my freinds all the time but when I loose one (whether it's my action or there's) it really affects me in a big way. I didn't think losing my not so best friend recently was going to affect me but it is. She called me her best freind but yet we never...

feeling defeated

feeds@yuku.com (solicia) — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 04:37:20 GMT

My dad is elderly and is dying of liver failure. I have so many emotions going on right now and can't centre myself. Yesterday, I was at peace with the idea of him not being uncomfortable, confused etc. anymore. Today, I'm thinking OMG I'm going to lose my Dad. I don't care if it's normal and I despise cliches. I'm just reaching out and getting this off my chest.

I'm scared.

A pleasant meeting at Walmart with a disfellowshipped sister I once knew

feeds@yuku.com (red21) — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 22:39:19 GMT

I was walking thru my local Walmart when I spotted a young sister that I knew was disfellowshipped a few years ago and I believe still was. I know that her two brothers and her other sister had all left the organization after they reached adulthood. This sister is the same age as my daughter and I always loved these kids since my kids would hang out with them and they would come over to the house. So, my first inclination was to bypass her when I saw her in one of the isles because I...

post-JW relationship issues?

feeds@yuku.com (ladybamalama) — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 09:21:08 GMT

I'm sure I'm not the only one, and I'm also sure this subject has probably already been broached, but does anyone else live with the shadow of how we were raised when it comes to relationships? I was married from age 20 to 35 to a "good brother" who, to all outward appearances, was such a fine young man. However, I knew I didn't love him like I should have, but he was acceptable to everyone, so..... (Unfortunately, I was the one living with his depression, closet...

How To Deprogram Yourself and Feel Free

feeds@yuku.com (Pig) — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 07:47:10 GMT

Hi all.
It's almost a year since i left and i wanted to share some of the things that helped me when i left.
First off, it can be very lonely and hard to make friends so most of these things are things you can do by yourself.
They might sound silly but sometimes a little silliness takes the edge off the depression and guilt or whatever you may be feeling.

IF YOU CAN, GET A PET.
A pet will get your mind off your own problems and give you a whole new set of...

I'm Tired of Being an Ex-Jehovah's Witness

feeds@yuku.com (cosmichippo) — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 09:13:23 GMT

Does anyone else share this sentiment?

I don't mean that I regret leaving.

I mean that I'm tired of the baggage that goes with it. It is like a spirit that is always by your side, waiting to remind you that you were somehow wrong. You come to places like this for comfort and help, but you also feel like the message boards are a constant reminder of a past life.

Your family, who sincerely don't want to see Jehovah execute you mercilessly, tell you to...

Disappointed and Depressed....

feeds@yuku.com (greeneyes68) — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 16:29:18 GMT

Hi everyone. I'm just feeling a little isolated right now. I was raised in the Borg (I'm 40) - I left over a year ago. I'm not DF'd, just faded.
My father is deceased, my mother is in a nursing home, so isn't really "active." My sister is a Die-Hard follower (after years of riding the fence and being DF'd), and my brother is inactive.

Anyway, I was really hoping that my brother had come to the realization that WTBS is just a...

depressed-lonely-suicidal at times (this is a long ramble, sorry)

feeds@yuku.com (rb) — Sat, 10 Oct 2009 00:58:52 GMT

Hi all, like many of you I am disfellowshipped...it will be 6 years December 25th...ah, what a nice xmas gift. I'm turning 24 in a week - and will be celebrating my birthday even though it doesn't really matter to me. I found this site because I am up late, sleepless and sad. I was born and raised a JW- Dad an elder and pioneer when he had the time, mom a pioneer and stay at home mom. I have 5 sisters- and today 2 of us are disfellowshipped (one for fornication, one for being...

My Daughter

feeds@yuku.com (elelou44) — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 05:12:34 GMT

Hi Guys just need to talk a while.

My Daughter Rachel Died on Friday night, so uch has happenend since I last posted my situaton, she had been seeing the children and was having another baby, unfortunately I think although she told us she was on a methadone program she was also taking street drugs, we dont know what really happened yet, the is to be an inquest and the police are involved, her boyfriend and father of the children has been arrested and bailed.

I feel so...

Why do we think "sacrifice?"

feeds@yuku.com (Cacky) — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 18:40:09 GMT

I was driving today and a good song came on the radio and I turned it off to say a prayer. (I still pray, but now it's more heartfelt, and to Jesus and our Father, not Jehovah, though I'll catch myself absentmindedly saying Jehovah.) Then I wondered why, whenever something like a song I liked came on the radio, I always felt like I should "sacrifice" and turn it off to pray. It's so weird how we got programmed, thinking every time things didn't go as we hoped, it was...

Breast Cancer

feeds@yuku.com (OWLEYES) — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 14:37:57 GMT

I just read Jeff's thread in the "general" section and it's got me wound up, but I don't have room for anymore, so my apologies to Jeff, I could write a lot, but my brain is elsewhere...

I haven't been around much, for various reasons, but I'm here today and asking about what others have gone through. I'm waiting to hear; having gone to the doctor and now I have both an ultrasound and mamo this week. Anyone else been there, done that? I feel...