What is most annoying to you? ( Pick one)
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Posts: 110 (05/04/08 11:02:46) |
What is most annoying to you? ( Pick one) (Result)
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jehovahcankissmyass |
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Posts: 111 (05/04/08 11:05:03) |
When children are loud in public places, I mean really loud I feel like I either have to run to a quiet place or smack the parent. Just a instinct I have. I am
not sure I want it evaluated but whatever, I tend to be a open book.
By the way I do like kids. I just don't like when they scream and act insane in public. Parents need to parent once in a while. I never acted like that as a kid because my mom would have boxed my ears or something elas that worked.
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Posts: 5678 (05/04/08 11:24:23) |
The fact that kids don't come with a volume knob is all the proof I need against 'intelligent' design.
Jody
The good Christian should beware of mathematicians. The danger already exists
that mathematicians have made a covenant with the devil to darken the spirit and confine man in the bonds of Hell.
-- St. Augustine
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1cookiebear |
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Posts: 818 (05/04/08 11:39:08) |
I voted kids being loud, as I believe you were refering to kids being loud in public places. Yes, I would like to smack the parents also. It is
usually not the childs fault, it is the inattentiveness of the parents, and their total lack of respect for the other people in the room. Once again an example
of poor parenting that is rampit in our society. The parents are so selfish, so self centered, and so ignorant of the fact that children need love, disipline
and guidance at all times. Being a parent is not a part time job! Its a 24/7 job until the child leaves home and starts their own adult life. The job is not
over at this point. It then becomes a part time job. So many parents fail to realize the great responsibility of having and raising children. I have a VERY low
tolorance level for parents who ignore their children!
"Armageddon could be knockin at my door. But I aint gonna answer thats for sure. Theres gotta be somethin more." Jennifer Nettles
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Debsfreethoughts |
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Posts: 180 (05/04/08 12:06:13) |
Kids are kids and loud is their normal volume. Most of them outgrow it!
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Scared Momma |
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Posts: 508 (05/04/08 12:21:37) |
I wanted to strangle parents with out of control loud kids in public places right up until I had my own...boy was I humbled. To be clear...my boys are not
allowed to go wild in public but there are times when things are hard to deal with and my judgment of other parents has diminished.
I went to a movie once when the boys were much smaller and everytime they made a noise I took them outside (I made sure I sat where I wouldn't be in people's way when I got up) and I still had a couple cussing and flipping me off all the way out of the theater into the car.... Now you see that was even with my taking every effort to keep things quiet..... So...annoyance can go both ways.....those adults were WAY more annoying than my boys had been. |
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Palkab |
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Posts: 822 (05/04/08 12:34:58) |
True, there's probably worse things to be annoyed about, but please remind me of that when I'm in an airplane trying to get some shuteye while he/she
won't shut the hell up lol. I get annoyed easily by things like that. You can try anything to piss me off and you'll fail, unless you either touch my
food or sleep.
Don't do that, seriously God did not create the universe, think about it. Bad lighting; planets too distant; pestered with comets; feeble contrivance; could make a better universe
myself!
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irishshane |
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Posts: 609 (05/04/08 14:01:09) |
I dont think you can generalise here. Kids playing and having fun will be loud and RIGHTLY so.
Kids acting out because of lack of attention etc can be a bad reflection on parents but is not always the case. My son has always been very big for hos age so people expect him to act older. Allied to the fact he has ASD can make him seem to people who don't know him an unruly, spoilt brat. Nothing could be further from the truth but I bet a lot of people think we're awful parents. Anyway I like kids to have fun and enjoy life so let them be loud at appropiate times but I will not spank a child for making noise. Period  Stand up and fight until you hear the bell,
Stand toe to toe, trade blow for blow, Keep punchin' till you make your punches tell, Show that crowd what you know! Until you hear that bell, that final bell, Stand up and fight like hell!" - Chorus from the Munster Rugby anthem sung before matches. Irish by birth, Munster by the grace of God |
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Ronnie45 |
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Posts: 11129 (05/04/08 17:25:09) Administrator |
good topic.
I voted for loud kids. Actually anyone who is really loud is bothersome to me. I especially dislike people who talk about other people in open places about topics that should be not really discussed that publically and loudly... |
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irishshane |
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Posts: 610 (05/04/08 18:04:40) |
I would like to also have broken this poll down to see if we could see the range of those who have kids and those who dont.
I bet most without kids would vote the 'loud kids' option. I would have. Having a child changed my perspective Stand up and fight until you hear the bell,
Stand toe to toe, trade blow for blow, Keep punchin' till you make your punches tell, Show that crowd what you know! Until you hear that bell, that final bell, Stand up and fight like hell!" - Chorus from the Munster Rugby anthem sung before matches. Irish by birth, Munster by the grace of God |
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1cookiebear |
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Posts: 821 (05/04/08 18:38:18) |
I raised my son until he was three. I also spent two years raising 7 kids aged 3 thru 14. I also raised two kids with aspbergers syndrom from age 9and 14, and am still raising these two 11 years later. I understand that kids will be kids. But there is a time and place for everything. It is disrespectful and inappropiate for parents to allow their children to be annoying and disturbing to people in public places. Let me clarify something, I do not agree with "spanking" kids for making noise. It seems like every time the word discipline is used, people think of "spanking." Sometimes I can give a kid a stearn look, and that is all the disipline they need. I've given "the look" to other peoples kids and they have staightened up immiediatly.
As far as special needs kids are concerned, exceptions should be allowed, and understood by all. Believe me I understand. My two are 20 and 25 years old, and sometimes they act like 3 year olds. Sometimes they act like 14 year olds. I don't know which is worse! Gotta lovem! "Armageddon could be knockin at my door. But I aint gonna answer thats for sure. Theres gotta be somethin more." Jennifer Nettles
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Debsfreethoughts |
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Posts: 181 (05/04/08 20:15:02) |
Mother of three
Grandmother of five Former preschool teacher Granted, I probably have a lot of tolerance (either that or deadened nerves). In the old days, people didn't have to take their kids around in public as much. More meals were eaten at home and more travel was done in the car (vs. airplane). Moms spent all day with their kids and didn't feel guilty about demanding perfect behavior when out in public (or just bagging the shopping trip when somebody had a meltdown). Parents saved restaurant meals and movies for "date nights." My folks used to take us to the drive-in movie because we could take our own popcorn and fall asleep when we got tired. If we went to church, the little kids got shuffled off to the nursery so they didn't have to behave during the service. This is a generalization and there are always exceptions but that was pretty much the world I grew up in. I have some cousins (there were six kids in their family) who didn't eat in a restaurant until they were adults. When my kids were little (in the 80's), I went a couple years not taking my kids with me to the grocery store because they drove me crazy and I couldn't concentrate on getting the best deals. Now, most parents work. They're tired when they get off work and they still have to go to the grocery store or go get a meal at a restaurant. The kids are tired and want attention, too. Parents feel guilty about parking their kids with a babysitter (if they can find one) if they've already been at work all day. Or they just can't afford it. When I hear a child screaming in a public place, it makes me think that both the parent and the child are at the ends of their ropes. One time I had to ride the ferry from Juneau to Seattle alone with my three kids, all under six. It took three days and we had a tiny cabin. One was an infant and I was really struggling to keep the other two (who were bored to death) contained. Some wonderful older tourist ladies saw my plight asked me if they could help. I felt guilty saying yes because, obviously I couldn't handle my own kids. Those ladies walked the two older ones around and around the deck for hours to give me a breather. What a blessing--I'll never forget it! It's a tough world kids and parents live in. I vote for cutting them some slack and making a difference when I can. Who knows but a smile and a kind word might save a kid a smack. Deb |
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jehovahcankissmyass |
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Posts: 114 (05/05/08 01:24:20) |
It's true irishshane I don't have kids, but I do love kids and I have 3 nieces and loads of patience. Even if I did have kids although I would love
them and be a good mom, I would teach them not to be loud in public unless there babies they can learn. And when a baby is crying like crazy at a restaurant
the respectful thing to do is to take the baby to the bathroom till they calm down, at least that is what I would do because I understand people wanting peace.
Having children I am sure changes people loads but it would not make me lose respect for peoples peace of mind. Some people have mental illness and loud noises
set them off and I would not want my child to be the cause of that. Of course kids will make noise but it's just about knowing what to teach them or taking
them out of the room when there really loud. I once spoke to a person who was mentally ill and said when he heard baby's cry it made him have horrible
anxiety attacks to the point he had to leave wherever he was. I guess there are 2 sides of course. Hugs
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Posts: 883 (05/05/08 02:38:48) |
I couldn't vote on this one because none of the choices really fitted what I think. The closest choice for me was "kids being loud', but let's
face it, kids are loud. That's just kids. (although I see the point about when and where their 'volume' should be controlled) I want kids so much,
that I'd be willing to put up with them being loud!
Monty Python says it best for me..."He's not the messiah. He's a very
naughty boy!"
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Ronnie45 |
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Posts: 11130 (05/05/08 07:41:15) Administrator |
OK,
I have to revise my choice. lol I know I picked kids being loud, but actually that doesn't bother me too much. I obviously don't expect kids to be quiet all the time. I thought on it and it is actually when adults are loud is my main gripe. I prefer adults to act like one and it is annoying when they don't..... |
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jehovahcankissmyass |
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Posts: 116 (05/06/08 06:14:19) |
hehe Ronnie that is so true some adults are so loud and it can be really annoying at times.
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Posts: 816 (05/06/08 06:48:24) |
Yep! I know what you all mean about the changes in your reaction to kids once you have had your own!!
I have never been one who simply liked all children - I like well behaved kids, but then all kids misbehave at some time!! I'm afraid my maternal instincts are buried very deep - well, I'm over 50 and they still haven't surfaced yet 
I sometimes wonder if not having kids whilst you are young - in other words before you get to think about it too long - gives you too much time to look at it selfishly - I think the responsibility of kids frightens the hell out of me - especially after how my mum messed up my head big time!!! I would have to side with WC Fields - 'I like children - boiled or fried' 
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jehovahcankissmyass |
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Posts: 117 (05/06/08 09:23:30) |
Good point Sam, because I am 29 and never had kids so I have my life to think about what I
want, maybe that does make you more selfish and unable to decide kid issues but I don't know. I feel like I understand kids fine and noise does not bother
me when there playing and having fun what bothers me is when your in a nice restaurant and a 10 year old is acting like hes got turrets syndrome. Soooo
annoying. When you go to a place were you expect quiet and it's loud its like a smack in the face to me. I actually have to leave because I can't
handle it.
One time I was grocery shopping and a kid about 8 was screaming at his mom to buy him this and that the whole store could hear him and I was having a no tolerance day so I said to the mother" You have to control your kid because everyones staring at you and It makes you look like a shitty parent." Sam might be right because I have these thoughts like If parents can't control there kids they should not have had any kids. Maybe thats not reasonable, but it feels true to me. What also feels true to me is that some people should be forceably sterilized, like maybe a bunch of I.Q tests or something could dictate I dunno, John said that to me the other day at first I thought how mean, but now I realize, might be a great idea for some people. Shit I might be one of the ones that gets sterilized. haha 
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Posts: 619 (05/06/08 14:24:34) |
One time I was grocery shopping and a kid about 8 was screaming at his mom to buy him this and that the whole store could hear him and I was having a no tolerance day so I said to the mother" You have to control your kid because everyones staring at you and It makes you look like a shitty parent."Guess you wouldn't have appreciated what I did once when my son threw a wobbly in a crowded supermarket once. He was going through a tantrum phase if he couldn't get his own way. He wanted me to buy some spicy wedges at the deli counter even though he had just had lunch. When I said ' No you've had lunch', he went postal. Threw himself on floor, fists ponding, screaming. At this point words from a friend years previously came to mind. She had been studying childcare. She told me if you had the guts to do it get on the floor with them and copy them. They will see how silly they look and probably never do it again. So down I went, people staring, laughing. Within 30 secs he had stopped. I got up looked around, smiled, shrugged and said, 'worked didn't it?' By the way he never threw himself on floor again if he got in a strop. So that parent who you dissed might have been trying to ignore the child to see if that worked. Sometimes in those cases giving them attention or getting angry only exasperates the situation. I bet if you had kids you would have felt sorry for her rather than pissed with her. As I said before having children can give you a different perspective. Stand up and fight until you hear the bell,
Stand toe to toe, trade blow for blow, Keep punchin' till you make your punches tell, Show that crowd what you know! Until you hear that bell, that final bell, Stand up and fight like hell!" - Chorus from the Munster Rugby anthem sung before matches. Irish by birth, Munster by the grace of God
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Posts: 669 (05/12/08 18:58:57) |
Kids being loud. My kids are CONSTANTLY being load & noisey. Either they're screaming or making all sorts of sound effects or their toys that make
noise are making noise & so are they & it just drives me UP THE WALL!!! But I love them.
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Posts: 629 (05/12/08 21:46:59) |
I love kids and I have one of my own. I've also worked as a pediatric nurse for years, so I'm comfortable with children and parents. A child crying
because he's in pain or screaming because she's terrified of the needle I'm about to stick her with doesn't bother me at all. I empathize with
the child and the parents. A child running around playing at the park or playground, screaming and laughing, is music to my ears... especially when it's my
daughter. There are times and places that are perfectly appropriate for children to be loud, but there are also places where it is not appropriate. I don't
appreciate it at all when I go out to a nice restaurant and a child is being loud and the parent is ignoring it. I've never tolerated that type of behavior
from my daughter. When she was little, I would take her out to eat at nice places, and I always made sure she was quiet and polite. I taught her manners from a
very early age, and she has gotten compliments for years from serving staff and other customers on how well behaved she is. That's not to say that she has
always been perfect. There were a number of times when she was a toddler that she started to act out, and every time she did I immediately took her out.
It's not fair for everyone else to be annoyed simply because my kid feels like throwing a tantrum.
My husband has no patience for loud children in places like stores and restaurants. On quite a few occasions when we've gone out to dinner he has gotten annoyed by some kid crying or throwing a tantrum. If the parents take the child out, he's fine. But when the parents ignore the child and the kid continues to be obnoxious, my husband confronts them. He won't leave a restaurant over noisy kids. He'll walk up to the table and inform the parents that their children are being very loud and that it's ruining the dining experience for us. Most parents act offended when he confronts them, which blows my mind. If my child was being loud and someone asked me to quiet them in a restaurant, I would feel terrible. The entitlement of some parents is really annoying, as if their kids are all that matters in the world. Kids can be so incredibly enjoyable to have around, but they can also be obnoxious. Insisting on a soft tone and good manners in public places makes them much more enjoyable for everyone around. Nad
Question with boldness even the existence of a God; because, if there be one, he must more approve of the homage of reason, than that of blind-folded fear. -Thomas Jefferson
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