who and that's the only way it can be done while being in the cult. Yeah I know you can have sex before marriage but who wants to sit in a judicial committee hearing every other week.
So anyway in order to move this thing along married a second time to a good worldly girl didn't work out but we still get along pretty good no river of tears there.
So ok what was the title of this thread again? Oh yeah that's right dating. So I met another nice wordly girl a few months back and we were inthe getting to know one another phase of our
friendship things are progressing along very nicely when suddenly without warning she asks me this question. She already knew my family lives in another state so she asks "how often do you
talk to your mother" I was so not ready for that question because in order to answer the question honestly I would have to go into my whole jw history about being df'd and all
that I knew she wouldn't understand nobody understands but you good people. Then if I was to say "not very often at all it's probably been at least 2 or 3 months since I've spoken to her"
Which was actually the truth what would she think of a man who doesn't even have a relationship with his own mother. I hear women say all the time you can tell what type of man you
are dealing with based on how he treats his mother.
So now I'm stuck I had very little time to think clearly I had to come up with an answer so I said a couple times a week which of course was a lie.
As soon as those words left my lips I felt immediate shame and regret I felt like I have already told her a big lie and we were very early in our relationship. I agonized for a couple days
then finally came clean and told her the whole truth about my upbringing jw rules shunning the whole nine. I told her that I was still dealing with some hurt and shame over not having a
relationship with my own mother I apologized for lying she wasn't very happy that I told a lie but she got over it and everything is good. I just wasn't ready to talk about it because
like I said I knew she wouldn't understand. Nobody understands but you good people that's why I love coming to this site.