In the meantime ... here are some handy 'get me through the day' Rhon aka Andria tips ................
Always be yourself
Always love yourself
Always remember that even when your jdub family members and friends turn their backs on you ... they still DO love you!
Always remember that regardless of their level of shunning ... you will always be loved one ... they can't change that as you are related to them!
Always remember that even when they tell you they don't love you ... they DON'T mean it ... they are being told what to do
Always remember that even if you send them a card, a letter, an email or a text and they choose not to acknowledge it ... it is THEIR choice to shut you out NOT yours!
Always remember that the cards, letters, emails or texts you have sent WILL most definitely have been read and perhaps more than once. Why would I say that? Because they are still your family members and despite their indoctrination and love of shunning ... they are still human and will not be able to resist the urge to read what you've sent them!
Never EVER lower yourself to the already low standards of a shunning jdub ... be they family members or not. You play their game ... they will never stop. Instead greet them brightly and loudly .... if you can get away with adding a hug for good measure ... then go for it!
Never EVER put your head down in shame regardless of your reason for no longer being part of the WBTS trading as Jehovah's Witnesses ....... you have done nothing wrong! Remember that!
If you are not in touch with your family because THEY have chosen to shut you out ...... find (or make) a nice card ... take a smiling photo of yourself and add a little note along the lines of .... 'Hi ..... just wanted to let you know that I'm doing well and thinking of you. Have a great day xxx'
If you have those little moments in life where you think you may have made a mistake in leaving the borg ...... look at all of the above and then keep in mind that NO religion should make family choose between the religion or a family member. NO-ONE should ever make you choose ..... if they do ... they are thinking of themselves and their own agendas ... they are not thinking of you!
Stay way from negative people
If a family member or friend gets uppity about the anti-jdub sentiment you may have .... think of it as a wake up call YOU are sharing with THEM! If they spring to the defense of their religion .... it's a sure sign they have doubts! They will never tell you they have doubts .... until the doubts are overwhelming just like they were for you at one point in time!
You are free. You are allowed to do what's right for you without feeling selfish. Life is for living!
If you are sad ... go with it. If you are angry ... go with it. If you want to scream ... scream. Just don't let anything negative go for too long ... and you'll do just fine!
I am living proof that even with life's unexpected twists and turns ..... there IS life beyond the confines of the cult. Life can be glorious and it is most definitely what YOU make of it!
So get out there and live! The world is NOT ending any time soon! Be free! Be yourself!
With love and hugs to you all ......