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I went to Tim's a lot for a long time. Then I came here. And I'm on one yahoo group that I check into now and again, nice folks. I don't remember when I last posted here.

Ronnie's board is handled better than Tim's, better than other large ex-jw boards, imho.

I have put the JW stuff so far behind me now that I no longer feel like an ex-JW. I've moved so far on from it that although I can call up memories and sadness if I think about it hard enough, the rest of my life is bigger than that part of my life. My children have moved on long ago and rarely give any thought to the jw thing. My husband's only feeling about it is that he's glad we've let the local JWs know that I'm an apostate so they leave us alone.

So, I guess I'm just trying to toss that part in too, since you were trying to get a sort of demographic. There are those of us who may check in every few months, some of us will just disappear due to life moving so far beyond the JW and ex JW stuff.

People who stay are doing a good thing to help the new ones get their "worldly" shoes on and move forward. People who leave aren't trying to abandon things, it's just how life is.

People who drop away from internet groups generally get forgotten pretty quickly. Not really "forgotten", but life goes on. Like Benjomax, wasn't that his user handle? I've forgotten his name. He's the guy who died of throat cancer. He was such a nice guy. I know that people who were here at that time remember him. The newbies never got to know him. But life has gone on. There are others who've come and gone.

I was hoping that I'd keep in touch with a few people from here, but alas, that hasn't really happened. There's one I will likely keep in loose touch with. It might have helped if I'd gone to Stacy and Steve's wedding. I meant to, but couldn't.

I thought I might get to meet Nad and Suzi when I took that route across the states to see my daughter. But the last time I went, I was in a rush due to a family emergency. So, haven't met them either. It seems to me that Suzi might have moved since then, not at all sure about that.

One time, a long time ago when Jackie and I were friendly, she was going to take a road trip and stop here to visit. I don't think her road trip ever happened like she wanted it too, and now even if it did, she wouldn't be stopping here. But, I bet if we met, it'd be really nice.

So, I just haven't, in my travels or anyone else's from this board, met anyone from here. I think that makes a big difference. I have met people I knew on the internet first, over the years, and those friendships seem to stick. So, my advice is that if you have a chance to meet the people here that you really like a lot, do it when there are group get-togethers! Make the friendship extend beyond the ex-JW thing.

The thing is, putting a face, mannerisms, voice, and even shaking hands or a hug, to a person whose posts you like puts a whole new dimension on it, makes it so much more real. And it puts a human being to the posts you don't like, helps you to understand the person better, rounds them out, and rounds you out for them.

At the very least, exchange real emails, maybe even phone calls, with the people you grow the most fond of and that you trust, if you feel comfortable and safe doing so.

Anyway, that's my two cents. Doubt I'll be back for a while. Was kind of nice stepping in for a moment here.

Take care y'all.

Janet