Cranky,

I respect you for saying this. You're quite a courageous person. You're story is actually inspiring. I think deep down, we all want to be who we genuinely are, and we want to be accepted for it. I remember growing up, people tried to "push" me to go out with girls, so as not to think that I was gay.

When I was 19, I was in S. Korea, and there were many beautiful women. Unfortunately, I was too shy, and I used religion as an excuse not to take advantage of it. I also was too young to get into a serious relationship, which is the kind of person I was back then.

"This man was telling me to lie and ruin another persons life just to keep my secret and I wasn't going to do that."

Good for you. I think this shows moral strength.

Take care,
Pauley