There is a quote and Im not exactly sure how it goes but it says Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and hoping the other person will die. For us to hold on to this anger doesnt hurt them it hurts us. We need to forgive. I dont hold it against my mother for raising me a witness . I also realize she loved us and thought she was doing the right thing. I know it was hard for her to see me sad not being able to be like other kids but she thought it was the right thing to do. I also raised my kids the same way thinking it was the right thing to do. I apologize to my kids and hope they understand. The same with holding anger against those in our past. They only did what they were told to do and when we were in most of us acted the same way because we were told to act that way. The only way to get past this is to let go . Anger can only make you physically and mentally sick.