tristessa wrote:
We haven't been to meetings in weeks. Didn't go to memorial. And today I cancelled our room for assembly. All that's left is to tell family. Which we are holding off on to try to attend a friends wedding. On the one hand I see us fading out but on the other I so don't want people to think we are just "weak" and "letting life hold us back". I also don't deal well with stress so the not knowing when someone will find out is bugging me. The bible study campaign is that once a month whole cong meets at hall with the goal to offer bible studies. Ugh


There has been a lot of discussions about what is the best way to leave (fade or etc.). There are definitely benefits to the different sides.

Personally I am a fader, but I completely cut off all association and I did not care what they thought once I left I was just so happy to be gone...lol!!! Though, I do not have any family that are JW's so I was not really worried about the consequences. That is great that you have been gone for weeks, how do you feel? Hopefully your family will still be there for you when the dust settles.