My mother was disfellowshipped because she had a drug problem all her life. My grandmother was disfellowshipped and moved to another state leaving my mother alone in a motel for almost a year. My mother had to get herself back and forth to dyalisis by herself until the doctors finally found me and my brother becuase my grandmother moved her to a different hospital and wouldn't release any information. My mother died 8 years later but my grandmother didn't see anything wrong with what she did. She came to the funeral (against all of my opposition) and brought her watchtower and awake books for the family. I wouldn't worry too much about being disfellowed. They do it, but they don't realize that it is truely wrong. Good luck with your new found friends.image