You are right. I am thinking too much about what other people want. So how do you fade away with kids. our 6 year old is gonna have questions and want an explanation. Once he knows i dont know that he can keep a secret like that. i certainly wont expect it. Has anyone else been in a similar position? Also if we just do the fade my parents will want to take my kids to meeting when we visit. we have always been ok with that. I dont know that I am now. I dont want my kids to be scared for us because of something they hear.

Michele