((Tracy))

the very fact that your girlfriend has made you think about this - shows just how good you are for each other!! Sometimes others can see things that we are unable to about ourselves...........

I don't know that I actually took on board the whole 'humble' JW thing, but I did take on board the 'people-pleasing' part of the indoctrination - which can obviously result in never actually saying what I think or feel, incase it upsets somebody and they won't like me.............

I am trying to learn that I can be a caring person, without the need to be all things to all people - I think the best thing for you at this time, is that you have someone who loves you enough to want to be honest with you, and is there to listen and support whilst you examine your own 'learned behaviour'.....

As Yamms stated, a person can be humble yet self-confident..............I think for many of us we were browbeaten into false humility...........and at the same time robbed of self-confidence.............in other words we were out of balance....

The very fact that you are addressing this shows just how far you have come already!!

Love and Hugs
Sam xxx