Hi there Tankgirl ... I'm of the same opinion as the others. You were both very different people back then and highly influenced by what the elders, the religion and others of the religion led you to think and believe. He probably feels bad enough as it is ... and perhaps more so now that he's seen the borg for what it is.

Let sleeping dogs stay sleeping ... give that marvellous husband of yours a super-duper big hug ... and never let go of that personal freedom you've now got!