Hello Michele :-)

I am so sorry that you are having to deal with something that no child should have to.............and the blackmail just shows how conditional their 'love' truly is!!

It is not a natural state of things, so having coping mechanisms is about the best we can do..........even then, the anger rears its head sometimes.........

good news about your cousin though - and having found this site, there is always someone here to listen and to care!!

glad to have you with us
Hugs
Sam xx