Hello and welcome to the board. I was JW for many, many years and served as an elder in my congregation so I am very familiar with the typical JW mindset. I'm afraid that there is little if anything at all that you can do to help your friend out of there. I winced while reading your post when I came to the part: "that although she believed it all, she didnt want to live by them rules etc." That's the problem right there...she believes it. As long as that condition exists, I'm afraid there's very little hope. The indoctrination is so deep that there is no simple statement or argument that you can make that will shake them out of it. That is not to say that it is absolutely impossible but the amount of time and effort you would have to expend may be more than you want to and then with no promise of positive results. The best that you can do is make sure you don't get caught up in it yourself. Good luck to you and to your friend.

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My regrets stand like grim sentinels at roads once taken but not to be traveled again.