perfectly said Ben. It takes a very strong person to deprogram themselves and it takes a stronger person to stay away. Many go back for the wrong reasons...loneliness, wanting to feel accepted again, reconciling with family or friends or because of feeling overwhelming guilt.

She sounds like she has HUGE issues to deal with....and you can always be her friend. But she needs to make her choice and if she decides to stay in the cult...that is her choice but don't wear yourself out by worrying and trying to fix things for her.

Just be her friend...you never know what she will decide to do.