Hi There,
I haven't read your story if you posted one, or the other post about your son's trouble, yet, but I do know how you feel. I've had major depressive bi-polar and I know how it can make you feel. I have other family with it too, and it is a struggle to find the right regimen that works for you. It can seem to take really long, too. I was out of work for more than a year after my breakdown and lost two jobs before I took on a pretty much stress free position, then got my current job, which has been going great so far. So far I've been doing so much better since learning about the religion and that it is not the "truth." Leaving has greatly improved my stress level. But I also haven't had too much other stress in my personal life. Our kids are grown now. I remember once hearing Ralph Nader's mother on Phil Donahue (remember him? lol) saying, regarding raising children, "Don't worry about if they love you. That will come later. Just make sure they respect you." I thought that was kind of a good thought. I sure she was referring to how kids can sure see things very differently, they might think they hate living at home, or whatever, without them realizing how good they really have it. They just don't seem able to see things in a clear perspective or something. My college adolescent psychology professor said that kids are going through puberty at a much earlier age than from over 100 years ago. He said a study in the Netherlands showed this. Caucasion females are now hitting puberty at age 11.5, African descent individuals one to two years earlier. Boys are about a year behind girls. So we have a bulk of children, literally, with the sex drives of normal adults. No wonder there are problems raising adolescents and teens. So you have quite a challenge. One thing that might help would be a family counselor, if one is available that might be affordable. Some communities have that type of thing at reduced rates. Also, you could try your daughter's school counselilng. I've had some school counselors who were super. It's something to investigate.
I hope things work out. Take care and take your time to get better.
Cacky