If you want to disassociate yourself write a letter that says you no longer consider yourself one of Jehovah's Witnesses and deliver it to your local elder body.  It's that simple.  You don't need to get into detailed explanations.

If you are looking for support while you exit, we are here for you.  We've all been there in one way or another.  I simply quit going.  I never wrote a letter or anything.  That was ten years ago and I have never heard a word about it from a single elder.  Others were not so fortunate and were df'd or disassociated in absentia.  

If you don't want the repercussions from your family, I suggest you "fade" or stop going slowly.  I lived a couple hours from my family, so by the time they realised I was "weak," I had been out for a while.  Since I was never df'd or da'd, they still talk to me.

I'm not saying it has been easy.  My family has, of course, tried to "encourage" me.  But if you can put up with a little nagging now and then, it's not too bad.

Since you still live with your parents, you might want to consider figuring out where you want to go and what you want to do before you da yourself.  Having a plan will help.  It sounds like you are a very busy person, working, pioneering and going to school.  Not pioneering would be a good place to start.  If you stop pioneering and find more work, maybe some place that your dad doesn't work, then maybe you could make enough to move out and still finish school.

You are in a tough spot right now, and I won't lie, it's not going to get easier when you da yourself.  But that doesn't mean it won't get better eventually.   Take it one day at a time, don't rush into anything, and remember, we are here for you!


Misty

"The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago; the second best time is now"
-old Chinese proverb

"Unthinking respect for authority is the greatest enemy of the truth"
-Albert Einstein

“Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are.” ― Marianne Williamson