Hi again Alovejones,

As I re-read my post, I feel I must add a word of caution. Merely stopping pioneering and meeting attendance likely will not result in disfellowshipping action. However, the system actually can be more fickle that you might imagine. I still recommend being honest in what you say and do, but your presentation can often sway the outcome. If you say, "Right now, I am having trouble with my faith and am not sure of what I believe. At this time I can not bring myself to continue attending meetings and pioneering. However, I don't doubt Jehovah's Witnesses are good people." (which sounds honestly like what you're able to say) most likely a move to DF won't happen. On the other hand, if you say, "Lately I've been feeling like I want to disassociate myself and while I think many Jehovah's Witnesses are good people, I don't think this religion is right for me and I don't believe it" such could be interpreted by elders hearing it, you've disassociated yourself and they'll DF. Technically (from a JW dogma point of view) elders can disfellowship anyone who openly disagrees in thought with published teachings.

Much can depend on how the elders feel about you and your family. If you've been known to be outspoken or not one to easily follow direction or one to push boundaries in regards to speech or grooming, certain elders may be inclined to look for opportunity to DF.

Personally it is my view the constitutional guarantee of freedom of religion and freedom of speech should allow anyone to leave their faith without fear of reprisal. While I believe you don't have the right to remain one of Jehovah's Witnesses while not following their rules, you do have the right to leave without a follow up DF action. However, so far, no test case has vindicated my point of view here.

In my own personal case after leaving and having no substantial contact for over two years I was contacted regarding Christmas lights on my house. On the phone and in a follow up letter I made it clear I will defend my good name from defamation in court if my name is used in the simple form of DFing announcement (I do not mind a more expanded form wherein the congregation is explicitly told I identify myself as an atheist, and they are not being directed to shun me and the announcement is for informational purposes only). So far, I have heard nothing back, but it is also too early (14 days have passed) to tell.

Cheers,
-Randy

Last Edited By: rawe Feb 4 10 2:28 AM. Edited 1 times.