I,m with Andria on this one - they can only play their games if you allow them to.............by going to the meeting, you are showing that you still have regard for what they say and how they feel about your 'spirituality'........

I certainly wouldn't just stand them up - cos that sends out the wrong message to - almost that you are frightened to attend - no, be upfront but dismissive..........you have other pressing matters and it will not be possible to attend.......and seeing as your schedule is so tight at the moment, you will let them know when and if you can arrange another time.....

That way the ball is left in your court - which means of course that you will never re-schedule!!  Don't let them push you into saying anything that you are not ready to deal with - your circumstances dictate that it is better at this time NOT to say how you really feel - when you are nearer to moving out - you can do what you want........

Some here prefer to make a clean break, others prefer not to give them the satisfaction of saying anything at all..........you can decide which you prefer when the time is right for you :-)

Main thing is.........DON'T ALLOW THEM TO MAKE YOU PANIC !!