Well, I have no idea of how the funeral was conducted because anyone who was there is not talking. The person who died was not DFed, but (s)he very well may have gotten a "talking-to" about the way (s)he was living at the time (s)he died. Again, I can't be specific here on the boards (in case someone who knew this person is reading and recognizes who I'm talking about), but this person's death was somewhat connected to something going on in his/her life that the JWs wouldn't have approved of. (Nothing illegal)  I truly do believe that this person's family members are ashamed of the way this person died, because when people have offered their condolences, they have either ignored them or changed the subject.  I don't believe that if this person had died of cancer or in a car crash, that his/her relatives would act the way they have been.  I know they didn't act that way when my grandparents died, and even when my non-JW uncle died in a way very similar to the way this person died, they had no problem telling people how he died.

What I am really worried about are this person's children, who are not even teenagers yet. They have already lost a parent at such a young age and I am afraid that they are either directly or indirectly being taught that

1) They should be ashamed of the way their parent died
2) Their parent brought his/her death on him/herself by "not putting Jehovah first"

neither of which is true. The sad thing is, that by being so secretive, it made everyone more curious about the person died. We found out the cause of death by Googling the person's name. I've always been on the outside looking in wrt to JW, but much of what I see is so disingenuous that it makes me angry.