Existenz ... you're stuck between a rock and a hard place aren't you! As her mum and a grown adult ... you have the right to express to her EXACTLY what you did in your post above. I think you've already worked out that your daughter changes her mind about shunning you almost as much as she changes her undies but the only way you're going to stop the rollercoaster ride ... is to tell her you're getting off. You've well and truly done your 'time' after 20 years ... and she's a grown adult herself and should know better than to judge others so harshly ... specially her own mother.

BUT that's the JW lifestyle for you! It's one of those buggered if you do say something/buggered if you don't moments in life and you're the only one who will know what to say or when to say it.

My mum often says that I 'tread where angels fear to tread' when it comes to being honest with her and everyone else around me ... so maybe you can borrow my walking shoes and have a few 'treads' of your own with your daughter! Maybe the time HAS come for you to have a little chat with her.

A friendly, non confrontational chat. Let her know how you've been feeling and then ask her to put herself in your shoes. Would she like it if you were to shun her? Would she like it if you accepted her into your home for a few weeks and then made an excuse to keep her away for months at a time? Maybe that's what she needs. A gentle reminder that life doesn't always revolve around her religion.

It's a bloody awful religion to keep a family together in ... harder still to keep the family together when one or more have moved away from the lifestyle. And they claim to want to share their love with everyone! Yeah right.