((Cacky))

just because someone has the 'title' of mother or father does not actually mean they fulfill the duties that having children bestows on them.........

I do understand how draining it is to be constantly disappointed by a parents lack of concern or love, and just watch them selfishly trample over your life!!

My 'father' was such a person.........I tried most of my life to make him into something he was incapable of being, a compassionate, caring, unselfish, loving parent........in the end I had to admit defeat, the only person I was hurting continually was myself, he had no intention, inclination, or maybe even the capability to understand his shortcomings.........

Don't beat yourself up about your mothers selfishness........sounds like she likes to 'play' everyone in her life!!  To tell your child that you never want to go in a home is just to pour guilt upon them, it is a selfish thing to say because it shows total lack of concern for your children.........

Deep inside we all hope never to have to go in care - but a loving parent would rather make it known that should that be necessary they would want their children to do that, with no guilt attached!! 

She can't enjoy the simple things she should be doing Cacky, cos she's too eaten up with petulance...........the sad thing is, that her selfishness is actually spoiling what could be a happy time for her...........if she was more loving she would always have visitors, cos people would want to be with her........as it is, she is in control of her attitude - and its her own fault if her life is full of negativity!!

btw - you and me WOULD have a good time wherever......so long as we had plenty of books, tv, of course a laptop so we could still come on here, and people who loved us..........we'll do just fine   (in my case I'm gonna have to - I haven't got any kids to blackmail hehe!!) xxx