Hi DazednConfused and Welcome! 
 
I'm so glad you escaped this controlling religion and got away from your abusive husband.  Life can be very hard on women in the organization.  Women are truly second class citizens in the org and that is never more aparent then when abuse is involved.  There are other women on the board who have similar stories.  It is so sad the way the Org protects abusive husbands.
 
I'm glad you started a new life that takes courage!  As for your question: I wanted to ask anyone out there who is an ex JW if they have any advice on retrieving your self esteem or do you have any special coping skills.
 
Self-Esteem is key to healing.  I have always had low self-esteem but recently I have to say my self worth and value have increased.  The biggest thing for me was taking control of my life and demanding more.  Once I did that I started to feel better about myself.  It is easy especially for women to become so focused on being nice and nurturing to others that we forget that we have to take care of ourselves.... and doing that sometimes requires us to be strong and in control.
 
Be patient with yourself Dazed it is a "long road" as you said.  Each little step you take to heal like coming here and seeing a counselor will help.  I think this kind of pain has to be worked through it can't be suppressed.  Just remember you are worth the time and work!  Be Strong!
 
Take care,
Brandi