I broached that subject with my wife last night actually. I didn't intend to, but sometimes things just slip out. I said that I respected her right to teach our daughter whatever she felt was right, but that I reserve the same right for myself even though I have not yet decided what I think is right. Her immediate response was that this was not what we'd agreed on when we decided to have a child - if she'd known I would turn against the religion she would never have agreed to have a child (my wife was brought up in a religiously divided household herself, but her dad was not around a lot of the time). We agreed that she needed time to think things over before saying anything else that she might regret. Somehow or other, the conversation ended up on a very positive note, I think because I emphasised that I have forgiven her for going to the elders behind my back. We cuddled up together and watched TV, and have not made any reference to the conversation since.