That's what I thought Sam. This particular JW has come on here and figured out who I am and read my letter of DA and because I used the society's word "Disfellowship" against them, she ran with that and is saying that that's what everyone is doing that writes a letter of DA. Not only do I not think that is the intent of the letter, but it is also silly that even close family members can't talk to someone who has written a letter. I have done nothing wrong than to say I don't believe in it and we both know that's not allowed. I can only hope that other non-jw posters on this site can see what's really going on. The JW religion is a dangerous and mind-controlling cult! I have always thought that one of the signs of a religion that is a cult is how hard is it to get out. It's impossible to get out of the JWs with any shred of dignity if one can even find a way out. Enough said!