Trust your instincts Trix ........ then go with what you decide.

Weddings are supposed to be fun and certainly not a place where you should be interrogated by seemingly well-meaning religious pryers ... however it may not be that way at your hubby's cousin's wedding. If you're up to going ... you can always just sit at the back of the hall or alternatively, wait outside like many jdubs do at other people's weddings when they're held in 'those' places (aka other churches). It's quite acceptable to do that and it's better for you personally than sitting inside if it is going to make you feel awful.

The reception will be held like all other jdub receptions no doubt ... but again it's not a place where you should be interrogated or made to feel bad, so it should be okay. Don't forget that jdubs can sometimes behave like little children ... therefore it's easy to distract them during a conversation that may be heading the wrong way. "ohhhhh ... doesn't [add bride's name] look just gorgeous today ..." and babble on about the dress, the flowers or whatever else you can babble on about.

If you don't feel up to going ... let them know and make sure to send a lovely card and a gift. It's correct etiquette to send a present if you've been personally invited and can't attend.   It doesn't have to be something really expensive ... even a nice photo frame would be enough.

"Thanks to God .... for making me an Atheist!"
Ricky Gervais
Golden Globe Awards - 2011