My advise is a little different because I was in a kinda similar situation. And I'm now not a jw and glad my bf just put up with it for a little while. With that said, if you really like this girl then nothing is wrong with getting to know her. You could even go to the meetings and see for yourself if you think it's the truth or not. But like a few people on here said, research all sides not just what Jw's say. The girl honestly probably has slot of great qualities you may appreciate in a gf or wife. I know I did.. Lol im just saying some jw's really are just blinded but are truly loving kind honest people. So it's no wonder you were attracted to her.

The one big difference though between my situation and yours is I never gave my man an ultamatum. I guess you can say I was a rebellious jw bc I still thought about things for myself and had a mind of my own. Yes, deep down I wanted my bf to go to meetings with me but I would NEVER tell someone in a relationship they had to change something that large to be with me. It's honestly just not right. The way I see it is how I met you, that's how you should expect me to be and if I ever falter from that, THEN you can ask me to change back to how I used to be... But only then.

So maybe you should tell her how you feel. That you'll be supportive of her going to the kh and go on occasion but maybe never make the commitment to it. She either excepts it and you all live happily ever after or not and you move on.

Just again.... Reasearch it though. Being with a jw means you will face challenges along the way you never would have thought about. Just make sure your ready for it if that's the route you go.... Hope it all goes well for you