A warm welcome to the site Dubstep. What a journey you made! Worthy of a Greek hero! Diving into the whirlpool of brain dead zombies, even becoming a baptised Jdub, swimming against flow and then climbing safely out onto dry land again----- all for love!

She must be worth it!

 

We all here can feel for you in your predicament even if it’s not our own experience. My wife did not leave with me when I exited but I sense that your partner although torn in her allegiances, might do so. For example she already knows how the world is, being able to enjoy normal   recreation outside the org. You have good communication and understanding between you. You have both been through long periods which have tested your own relationship, so there is no reason why together this admittedly difficult hurdle cannot be overcome.

 

The problem is all about loyalty.  It is not about what is true. Intellectually the WTS is worse than nothing; it is both misleading and entirely self- serving. But it does offer hope and friendship and the claim to being god’s only channel. It is about emotional issues, having had them claimed at an early stage in the believer’s development by the double bond of family and religious culture. This then, colours everything the witness observes and believes. It is a highly selective view as through a funnel. At the end of the funnel is a lens which only permits focussing on WT interests. You know how it works.

 

What might be needed is to sow seeds of doubt. They don’t grow easily in witness soil but with very gentle nurturing they can be cultivated. In my own case someone said quite un-emotionally “None of it can be proved”. Someone else with experience working with two of the presidents of the society whispered in my ear “Take your own counsel”.

I am grateful for these tiny seeds and by reflecting on them saw the glimmerings of reality and most importantly the irrationality of the religion.

 

 One suggestion is to investigate the origins of the Society on the internet with her after asking her,”I wonder how the Organisation got started?” The internet is a boon!

 

You’ve already escaped by swimming the straights of Messina, passing the deadly Scylla rocks of family persuasion and the monstrous Charybdis witness whirlpool------ take her with you next time---you can do it!

 

Hb