although mentally i'm out, i still haven't submitted my letter if disassociation

That of course would be a personal decision dubstep..........some here feel that it lends closure, while others feel that making any statement only gives credence to their man-made and inhuman rules..........

It sounds like you and your wife have a very close relationship, and I hope that will be on your side at this time.........it may not be rapid, but then it takes some time to de-programme our brains!!

btw - 'mentally out' is the most important step, everything else is just superficial , at least you are getting it the right way round..........I left 'physically' but it was over 30 years before I left 'mentally'..........that is definitely the wrong way to do it smiley: ohwell

Sam x