I used to have this naive, trusting idea that if JWs could only listen, they would realize what was wrong with a, b, and c about their teachings and policies, and we would all grow and change together, and I could then remain in God's true organization without all the misogynist, homophobic, Bible-manipulating and general misery. We'd CHANGE! I have no idea where I got that from, considering how much they are NOT a democracy. I just sort of imagined, "The JWs are still God's people, so they just need to understand how they're messing up..." But that's the thing - there's no community decision making or anything such. You obey. And if you disagree with the teeeeeeniest little thing, you're kicked out very fast.