I have come to grips with the fact that I'm never going to bridge that gap and 'reach' my daughter but for my self, I know that if she ever did leave the religion I would not turn my back on her even considering the hurt I have felt because of her treatment of me. Maybe it's a 'mom' thing or it's just a 'sharon' thing.....Her siblings will not be so easy on her. She would have to renegotiate terms with them.

I do appreciate what you said Mick, about not really helping them in any way bargaining with them. We've succeeded in getting out and so we move continually forward (hopefully). Taking responsibility for THAT end of the deal is not our job.

Still.........on an emotional level.......a human and MOM level........I for one never do seem to be able to completely let my daughter and now my little grandson go. Like you suggested, it's not something that ever should be bargained for.  Leaving the religion did wonderful things for me in the form of being able to finally start growing again and moving forward in my life but it did me no favors on the family level. Losing any one of my children is an ugliness that lingers no matter how successful I am in post JW life. I think it is a very deliberate devise of the GB. They can't stop us from being successful but through their policy they can and do hurt us. They are absolute cowards and bullies!



Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.

t.s.eliot