...sorry you are going through this M, I know if my own sister did that I would be very hurt.

The double standard thing is interesting. I have found with my inlaws that they are torn between shunning me and wanting to know my business (they are known for drive-bys and stalkish behavior, not sure if it's a jdub thing). It's actually kind of comical in a way to see the dissonance they visibly go through.

At least we can be happy to be away from the mind control!