Welcome to the forum Clever. We are all so glad you found your way out. It does get better but not completely normal (whatever that is) as life goes on. I too have a son and his family that are Dubbies. It hurts when they decide that even if you aren't officially DF'd that they can't or won't have anything to do with you. Patience is what is needed and "I want it now". LOL Anyway, just keep on spending as much time as possible with them in the hopes that someday they too will see the Borg for what it is. If you show them that you have unconditional love for them, when that time comes it will make it easier for them to exit. I try to keep this in my mind despite the pain their actions can cause.