Hi Lyrics and

It isn't easy starting over especially after being in the jw's for so long. The main thing is to make a personal decision or choice based on what you feel is right and then follow it. That seems to be the most difficult part, since 'not making any choice' is the default route. But, by 'not making any choice', then one chooses to stay in the jws. I personally don't discourage anyone from that route, but only if that is what makes them happy.
For me and most here, it wasn't making us happy at all.

The other stuff after that I am sure we can be of assistance with. Main thing is to follow your heart.

I am not really up to speed on either of those books, but I hope they help out.

You might also take a look at our links page http://exjehovahswitnessforum.yuku.com/forums/16 as it might have useful info.

Good to have you aboard...