1. I am so grateful to have found this board. I had no idea that there was a place to express feelings and problems left over from leaving.Reading the posts
here have helped me resolve a lot of issues in my head. Some of which I wasn't even aware I was still carrying around.
2. I left the borg about 15 years ago,the catalyst or final straw was a break up, with a guy I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. I didn't leave right away but started fading and then gave up and sent in a letter stating my intentions. I am now back in touch with this man, He also left probably right around the time I did. What angers me is we broke up because the elders in his cong, told him to break up with me. This is an anger I have held on to for all these years. My head tells me the best way to let go of this and move on is to tell him exactly how much he hurt me and to tell him what an impact that break up had on the next five years of my life. He destroyed my faith in love and commitment and I committed many stupids acts over the following years due to this. Including an incredible stupid marriage that has since dissolved. Part of me is somewhat grateful as it helped push me to leave the borg.
I am now in a great marriage with a man who has taught me what treu love and commitment is about. Should I just let go of this or should I confront him and tell him how much he hurt me. Know keep in mind what communication we have is internet as he now lives on the west coast and I am on the east coast.
2. I left the borg about 15 years ago,the catalyst or final straw was a break up, with a guy I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. I didn't leave right away but started fading and then gave up and sent in a letter stating my intentions. I am now back in touch with this man, He also left probably right around the time I did. What angers me is we broke up because the elders in his cong, told him to break up with me. This is an anger I have held on to for all these years. My head tells me the best way to let go of this and move on is to tell him exactly how much he hurt me and to tell him what an impact that break up had on the next five years of my life. He destroyed my faith in love and commitment and I committed many stupids acts over the following years due to this. Including an incredible stupid marriage that has since dissolved. Part of me is somewhat grateful as it helped push me to leave the borg.
I am now in a great marriage with a man who has taught me what treu love and commitment is about. Should I just let go of this or should I confront him and tell him how much he hurt me. Know keep in mind what communication we have is internet as he now lives on the west coast and I am on the east coast.
