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Posts: 674 (10/26/09 04:37:20) |
My dad is elderly and is dying of liver failure. I have so many emotions going on right now and can't centre myself. Yesterday, I was at peace with the
idea of him not being uncomfortable, confused etc. anymore. Today, I'm thinking OMG I'm going to lose my Dad. I don't care if it's normal and I
despise cliches. I'm just reaching out and getting this off my chest.
I'm scared. Chrissy
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Posts: 95 (10/26/09 04:41:52) |
Solicia
I'm sooooooooooo sorry you are going through this!! I can't say I can relate to your situation, but I DO feel for you and having to watch someone you love slip away. <<>> |
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Posts: 5819 (10/26/09 04:46:20) Administrator
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((Chrissy))
of course you are scared...........its your dad ffs!! I can't give you any cliches, cos I have lost both my parents and I know from experience that there are no words to make the situation any easier to bear........ The only thing that did, and does, help me was knowing that it was okay to voice the pain to others, that it was okay to cry..........so that is all I can offer at this time, the ability to talk about your dad as much as you want.........and a shoulder to cry on........ Sending you my love and understanding Sam xxx Sam |
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Posts: 20 (10/26/09 05:26:29) |
Chrissy,
I'm so sorry to hear about your father. I don't know your situation as far as being
Df'd and if you still talk to your family... but I hope you are able to spend some quality time with your dad. Cancer is a horrible illness. I will
keep you and your family in my prayers.
Take Care,
Brandi
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Posts: 675 (10/26/09 05:35:47) |
Thank you for the kind words. My whole family is out and I'm grateful for that. My Dad is the reason my family and I moved back to town. He had
congestive heart failure last year. I wrote a few words dedicated to my Dad. My head doesn't feel like it's in a million places after writing this.
I'm regular and haven't been around too much lately.
How am I suppose to accept the fact that you won't be there for my wedding day.
I don't know how much time you have left but I will cherish it with you. I will try to hide my tears but I don't think
I can contain myself anymore.
This is the end and it's not easy to accept and it won't be easy to move on because I love you dearly. I don't like
that you're suffering.
Chrissy
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Posts: 1628 (10/26/09 09:15:53) |
((Chrissy))
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I haven't lost anyone close to me in death yet so I can't imagine what this must be like but I know its painful and I want you to know you are in my thoughts. |
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Silver Level Member
Posts: 47 (10/26/09 09:20:12) |
sorry to hear your sad news
 
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Registered Member
Posts: 6 (10/28/09 10:38:08) |
theres nothing anyone can really say, many have been through it, my dad died when i was 15, none of this helps your problem, I'm jusy sorry its happening
to you.
PS is it ok if i pray for you ... |
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Posts: 515 (10/28/09 14:11:11) |
(((Chrissy)))
I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. No words can really make it better, but I want you to know I'm thinking of you. 
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Platinum Level Member
Posts: 113 (10/28/09 15:43:58) |
Oh no Chrissy I'm so sorry. I was wondering why we hadn't been seeing you around quite so often lately. I'm terribly sorry, hang in there, nothing
I can say will make you feel better, but I'll be thinking of you.
So oftentimes it happens, that we live our lives in chains, and we never even
know we have the key.
-The Eagles: Already Gone Signed: The user formerly known as exjw11109 |
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MVP (Most Valuable Poster)
Posts: 676 (10/28/09 16:41:42) |
thanks you guys are awesome. you're right there are no right words but the support, strength and positive energy is what i need the most and i knew i'd
find it here♥
Chrissy
-- Tuck Everlasting Alicia Heald |
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Posts: 3495 (10/28/09 18:09:18) |
Sorry to hear the news about your Dad Chrissy.
Going through a worrying time regarding the health of a family member myself so can relate to the mixed emotions. Thinking of you. 
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Posts: 2282 (10/28/09 18:42:41) |
(((Chrissy)))
I'm sorry for your father's pain and yours. My Dad had Congestive Heart Failure and at the point at which his heart was only working at 25% capacity he came to live with us. We were given nearly a year to make up for the lifetime we'd been estranged. It was a blessing for everyone in the family who was willing to surrender their resentments. (I learned from my JW mother after Dad died, that he had written to her, I think to make amends, but she took it as an attempt at reconciliation and refused to respond to 'that unbeliever'.) I tell you this because the healing that occurred as the disease was taking his life brought new life in to our relationship. Perhaps you will have this opportunity too. Cee Cee I hope I hugged him enough. |
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Posts: 3449 (10/28/09 21:43:08) Forum Moderator |
Aww, Chrissy. It's so hard... I don't think there is anyway you can really prepare yourself for it. We watched my dad wither away with Alzheimer's,
at the end, he weighed only a little over 100 pounds. He started losing his memory a few years before he passed, so we knew it was coming sometime, it was
still very hard when it finally happened.
I'm thinking of you and hoping you will get through this, as hard as it is. I was able to tell my dad I loved him many times before he passed, I think we were closer then than we ever have been and I am glad we had time to exchange our feelings. Sending love and energy your way. Yammer.
"There is no shame in not knowing; the shame lies in not finding
out." ~ Russian Proverb
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Posts: 1180 (10/30/09 16:44:34) |
(((Chrissy)))
Thinking of you. |
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Posts: 7233 (11/02/09 21:39:16) |
Hi Chrissy ... looks like you're in the same boat as me right now. My JW mum has been diagnosed recently with Multiple Myeloma (aka blood cancer) and as
blood transfusions, stem cell treatment and anything else blood related are the most successful treatments to keep this type of cancer under control (it's
not curable) ... I'm having a hard time reconciling the fact she's willing to die for her religion. I love my mum to death but right now would
willingly strangle her to death as she's put her religious beliefs and her religious friends before her own family ... and with my JW father's full
blessing. Her non-JW chlidren (my siblings and I) are left wondering what we're supposed to do or say ... and our relationship is starting to suffer.
It's one of those things though and I'm sure you will get through your dilemma with strength, good grace and love.
If you've not sent those words to your dad ... maybe you should eh!
"A loving heart is the truest wisdom"
~~ Charles Dickens ~~
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Posts: 3609 (11/02/09 23:27:30) Forum Moderator
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I haven't lost a parent yet but my mom is in poor health and I've been thinking about how one of these days I won't be able to call her and hear
for the thousandth time the same old stories from her youth. I was talking to her tonight and she had been going through old pictures (again) and started in on
the old stories and I was starting to cut her off but then I realized that she needed to keep telling these old stories. I got to thinking that maybe it's
something built into us to pass on the stories and memories.........
Anyway, it's ahead of me and maybe not in the too distant future. You and Andria and many others here are going through either serious illness of a parent or have gone through the death of a parent. It's kind of the end of an era for a family when a generation passes and the next is left to carry the memories. If your dad has stories to tell I guess I'd say listen patiently and you'll have those precious memories to pass on to your children. Being there for him and yes, sharing your feelings with him (and what you wrote) will , I think, mean so much to him. (((Chrissy))) I'll be thinking of you as well. sharon Harm none, do what ye will |
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Indispensible Poster
Posts: 2507 (11/07/09 21:16:45) |
Chrissy, I can tell how much you love your dad and reading your words took me back to when I lost my father. In the end, I did not want him to suffer any more
and even if he had lived for a few years longer, his quality of life had gone and he would have been so unhappy. I thought it was selfish of him one time when
he said he wanted to go to sleep and not wake up, but then I realized I was being selfish for just wanting him to be alive.... but ill and housebound.
My thoughts are with you at this very difficult and emotional time.
Steve
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Posts: 11 (12/02/09 13:46:38) |
I'm so sorry Chrissy.
You have my deepest sympathies.
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MVP (Most Valuable Poster)
Posts: 661 (12/03/09 11:51:49) |
How is your Dad doing Chrissy? And how are you holding up? Miss hearing from you, but I know you are going though a tough time... Hope you are doing well. Thinking of you
I wish we could open our eyes
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MVP (Most Valuable Poster)
Posts: 677 (12/03/09 15:44:55) |
aw thanks for asking. My Dad is ok. He's stable and is at home. My daughter and I go over every morning for breakfast. Ohhh! he's stubborn but we still love him to bits.♥ It feels like one thing after another I got laid off recently. Keeping my chin up and making the most of it. Thanks again everyone☺ Chrissy
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