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kellyrobynking	aaaaaand the paranoia returns....	Lead	[-]
MVP (Most Valuable Poster) Posts: 885 Feb 2 12 6:13 AM Reply Quote More My Recent Posts	Things have been going so well with my parents, I see them often at weekends with isla, and they love seeing her and we chat and get on well. The last time they were at my flat it was a shell, totally empty and needed lots done to it. This was a few days before my dads big operation, they came to see the flat cause it would be a while before dad was able to come visit. Over the weeks between then and now, they have seemed very interested in how we are getting on and I've been keeping them updated with how the move is going and decorating my first proper family home. They've said they can't visit though, until dad is well enough to be out and about... I totally understood this, until I text my mum last weekend asking if they fancied seeing isla, I would pop in and visit on my way to the swimming pool. But my mum replied that they were away for the weekend.... I kinda thought...hmm... I thought dad couldn't leave the house and thats why they couldn't visit me? never mind go away to a place that take and hour and a half to drive... hmm, but I ignored my paranoia. I lightheartedly asked a few questions about how they were enjoying the weekend, how dad was and if they took the dogs etc. Mum seemed a bit...I dunno, 'off' like her texts were hurried... so I casually asked if it was just the two of them, she skipped past this question and changed the subject. This makes me think my sister was with them, the one who regularly poisons them with hatred towards me, my mum doesn't like mentioning her to me or me to her, as we very bitterly fell out. No matter, I thought nothing of it. She wants to spend a weekend with my dad and my sister and doesn't have time to text me properly, fine. Althought she even didn't reply to a couple of my texts which was VERY unusual....especially as they were about isla. Anywho, on the monday I passed my sisters flat (at the top of my road) and saw my mums car there! My heart kind of pinged a bit I was pretty disappointed that she had the time to go and visit my sister, but she didn't want to come visit her granddaughter and see our flat....We live in the same road for goodness sake! It wouldn't be hard to come see us.... I phoned her, to say 'worried that you haven't replied to my messages, did you get home ok', she didn't answer. Of course she wouldn't, she was at my sisters she wouldn't speak to me in front of my sister for fear of my sisters wrath! So I phoned later, when I knew she'd be home. All she said was that they got back that morning, she didn't even say she'd been mere yards from my house...so I cheerfully said 'Oh! I saw your car outside R's btw!' and she kind of stammered and stuttered quite a bit....eventually she said she had been cutting a friends hair in my town and popped in to drop off a dvd to my sister... No idea why she couldn't come and see Isla.... So my paranoia has now returned in full force. Not sure why I posted this, I'm just disappointed I'm YET AGAIN back in a place where I can't trust my mum. I don't want her to visit if she doesn't want to, but why pretend that she can't wait to see us but can't? Because she can! so why lie??
punkofnice		#1	[-]
Posts: 5376 Feb 2 12 6:24 AM Forum Moderator Reply Quote More My Recent Posts	Aww. Bless ya! I totally get where you're coming from. It may be something it may be nothing. I guess you've seen how the WBT$ is screaming it's vitriol into the 'sheep'(TM) and they're frightening them with Jar Hoover's wrath. This is because the WBT$ are openly exposed in the world now. They're going to lose more followers resulting in lack of funds for the 7 leaders. So the heat is on against those who disagree with the GB. Perhaps you worry that your sister might be at the root of this I would wager. Alls we can ever do is talk to our rellies and ask them what the score is.........just like you did. Perhaps you're a little tired with all the excitement to your new gaff and lovely new daughter. As George Harrison sang: 'All things must pass.' .........and they do. It'll come right in the end. Regards Paul (MDA - Mentally diseased apostate)! *Just remember. Neither The Watchtower(TM) nor the elders(TM) nor anyone in the 'truth'(TM) have any authority over you. Once you accept this you're well on your way to living!* Paint jobs on some familiar magazines and 'dublications' of the washtowel are kept here >> http://exjehovahswitnessforum.yuku.com/topic/17962/Some-Familiar-Publications-given-the-paint-job Join me on FACEBOOK http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100002619536657 Join me on YouTube http://www.youtube.com/user/PuNkOfNiCe?feature=mhee
irishshane		#2	[-]
Supreme Member Posts: 6059 Feb 2 12 6:28 AM Reply Quote More My Recent Posts	You can be sure the April WT study wont have helped things. Don't know what else to say as can't work my Mum out either. Hugs "To have it come around once is a dream, to have it come around twice is incredible. - Declan Kidney (Munster rugby coach) 24th May 2008 ------ This is the dark heart of the Heineken Cup - Stuart Barnes in Thomond Park January 2006 ------ http://youtu.be/BFJ65Og3A2o - Was at this match with an amazing finish. You will see Cian (red hat) behind the women in this clip 6:50-6:57. G'WAN MUNSTER !!!
strainedcourage		#3	[-]
MVP (Most Valuable Poster)+ Posts: 1415 Feb 2 12 8:40 AM Reply Quote More My Recent Posts	kellyrobynking wrote: so why lie?? I am experiencing that same feeling because of my family, Kelly. The exact same question. Why must they lie!? It must be quite unpleasant for you to be going through this.
Rubadubdub		#4	[-]
MVP (Most Valuable Poster) Posts: 776 Feb 2 12 2:13 PM Reply Quote More My Recent Posts	Paranoia From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Paranoia [ˌpar.rəˈnoɪ.ə] (adjective: paranoid [ˈpar.rə.noɪd]) is a thought process believed to be heavily influenced by anxiety or fear, often to the point of irrationality and delusion. Paranoid thinking typically includes persecutory beliefs, or beliefs of conspiracy concerning a perceived threat towards oneself. Making false accusations and the general distrust of others also frequently accompany paranoia. Historically, this characterization was used to describe any delusional state. In modern colloquial use, the term "paranoia" is sometimes misused to describe a phobia.^{[citation needed]} The general lack of blame in phobia disorders sharply differentiates the two. In other words, fearing that something bad or harmful might happen does not in itself imply paranoia. Rather, there is an irrational fear of malice by others (excepting rare cases of schizophrenia). Sorry, but somehow I don't think this is a case of paranoia. Please take good care of yourself and your tiny little girl. Kindness (Stanza 3) Before you know kindness /as the deepest thing inside, /you must know sorrow /as the other deepest thing. /You must wake up with sorrow. /You must speak to it till your voice /catches the thread of all sorrows /and you see the size of the cloth. /Then it is only kindness that makes sense anymore, /only kindness that ties your shoes /and sends you out into the day to mail letters and purchase bread, /only kindness that raises its head /from the crowd of the world to say /it is I you have been looking for, /and then goes with you everywhere /like a shadow or a friend. Naomi Shihab Nye (1953-) http://www.wussu.com/poems/nsnkind.htm
kellyrobynking		#5	[-]
MVP (Most Valuable Poster) Posts: 885 Feb 2 12 2:56 PM Reply Quote More My Recent Posts	Thanks for the replies Its the unknown that kills me... What has my sister been saying/what has the WT been teaching now/is it my bethelite aunt telling them to back off? So many possibilities and non of them good. Was daydreaming about how amazing it would be if my mum got out... She would make a brilliant ex JW!! I so badly want to 'preach' her the real truth. She's smart, so many of them are smart why can't they see???! The world they are in is so far from reality. Who knows what going on in the bubble that's Making them this way. I pray to the Giant Spaghetti Monster that they see the light before their time is up and theyve wasted their life..
redheadsquaddie		#6	[-]
Platinum Level Member Posts: 387 Feb 2 12 3:18 PM Reply Quote More My Recent Posts	Just because you are paranoid does nt mean they ain't out to get you ! Red xxx
Rubadubdub		#7	[-]
MVP (Most Valuable Poster) Posts: 776 Feb 2 12 3:38 PM Reply Quote More My Recent Posts	redheadsquaddie wrote: Just because you are paranoid does nt mean they ain't out to get you ! Red xxx My point exactly, Red xxx Kindness (Stanza 3) Before you know kindness /as the deepest thing inside, /you must know sorrow /as the other deepest thing. /You must wake up with sorrow. /You must speak to it till your voice /catches the thread of all sorrows /and you see the size of the cloth. /Then it is only kindness that makes sense anymore, /only kindness that ties your shoes /and sends you out into the day to mail letters and purchase bread, /only kindness that raises its head /from the crowd of the world to say /it is I you have been looking for, /and then goes with you everywhere /like a shadow or a friend. Naomi Shihab Nye (1953-) http://www.wussu.com/poems/nsnkind.htm
AndriaSyxx		#8	[-]
Posts: 28559 Feb 3 12 9:44 PM Forum Moderator Reply Quote More My Recent Posts	They can't see the forest for the trees Kel ... because they're programmed into not seeing the forest for the trees. You are right to be hurt and indignant. I've had similar issues myself over the years. Sometimes I raise the issues with my parents ... sometimes I don't bother. Sometimes I'll make jokes of it ... fully knowing that my joking hits them hard. Sometimes I'll erupt into tears in the safety of my own little home and wonder why I didn't just take my life all those years ago to make it easier for myself. Then ... my sense of 'yeah whatever' kicks in and I find the differences both amusing and entertaining. My non-jdub siblings and I make jokes about my older bro having 'an arse that the jdub sun shines out of'. He's our 'He that can do no wrong' with his equally praised 'She that can do no wrong' wifey number two. When my bro gets on his high horse ... I usually toss it back his way with 'geeze you're a wanker Mark ... no wonder you're a good little jdub' which then irks him, wipes the sanctimonious smile off his face and I'm shoved to the side in the 'too hard to deal with basket'. I apparently 'know' that 'the truth is the truth' See! Amusing AND entertaining! Don't let them get you down sweetheart. At the end of the day ... it is your parents loss and not yours if they choose to stay away from you, Hadyn and the gorgeous little piece of pinkness Isla. Keep extending the invitations ... keep dropping in ... and then there's no way anyone can accuse you of shutting them out. The ball is very firmly in their court! ((( hugs ))) "Walk your life without fear. Walk strong." ~ advice from Rafaela of the Raramuri - Mexico ~
Shine		#9	[-]
Platinum Level Member Posts: 435 Feb 6 12 3:09 PM Reply Quote More My Recent Posts	I think one of teh worst things about witnesses is how they can be sooo bloody unchristian! I dont care if the stars dont shine, and I dont care if nothing is mine, I dont care if i'm nervous with you, I'll do my loving in the winter
gettingbetter		#10	[-]
Silver Level Member Posts: 86 Feb 6 12 8:42 PM Reply Quote More My Recent Posts	So sorry... I know how gutwrenching it feels when you can't have that same closeness and trust. Wish I had a magic answer for you. My own thing is to do as much as I can without making myself crazy. My family is perfectly willing to ask for favors or help, but they won't eat with me, barely ever been to my house and my mom won't acknowlege my husband of almost 4 years. So I understand how hard this is for you. Its all about figuring out how far you can go to keep the relationship going without feeling too resentful or used.
Cylon6		#11	[-]
MVP (Most Valuable Poster) Posts: 829 Feb 8 12 3:21 PM Reply Quote More My Recent Posts	Aww, Kel! Big hugs, girlie! And congrats on your new family home. CylonEmber My blog: Live Free and Enjoy Life Start here: A Nutshell Version of How We Escaped

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