So this morning I log into Facebook only to find that my oldest son has posted several pictures of him and his brother posing with their JW cousins (4 of them) at my ex-sister in law's house! Mind you they have not seen them since we left the religion several years ago. We attempted to allow our kids to visit with their grandparents and cousins many times, but they would refuse us saying shit like "Your kids share in your sins...", or, "only if you drop them off at a neutral location and you leave so we don't associate with you..." . They have crushed my children's hearts many many times and I don't feel that they EVER deserve to see my kids again!!!
As soon as I saw these photos I called my ex-husband to ask him wtf?! He said his two jw brothers have been in contact with him a lot more lately via phone calls and texts and that one of his brothers invited him and our kids over for dinner at his place Friday night. His brother is an ELDER!!! What is he thinking?? On top of that, his brother made a homemade lasagna for them and it was a nice dinner. At one point his sister showed up to say hi and pick up her kids (she has 2 of the four cousins that were there), and his other brother stopped by to say hi as well. This kills me on so many levels! I AM LIVID!! I asked him is he was ever thinking of going back to the religion for the sake of having contact with his family. He said "fuck no. not ever!" . I explained to him that I would have appreciated being consulted on this before he put our kids in this situation. My kids still struggle with the loss of these people from their lives. These four cousins in particular were their best friends and they were so heartbroken to have lost them. We spent years helping them re-establish new friends and help them cope when they needed it. My oldest son recently opted to visit a support group at school and one of the things he said he spoke of was loosing all his family and cousins to the religion. So it still affects him. The fact that his brain dead stupid father doesn't get that infuriates me to no end!!!!! And he CHOSE to put them in a situation where they could associate with these people again???? WTF?!!
I'm so sick over this. The effects this can have on them is unknown. But what runs through my mind is what if way down the road in the future when they've both become adults, they fall for they're fake affection and kindness and fall right back into that religions clutches. I would loose my children. I will move heaven and earth and take out anyone who gets in my way if that happens.
I have thought of getting revenge. I don't know if it's right or not....but I have to find a way to keep them out of my ex-husbands life and thus out of my childrens lives. I am thinking about figuring out a way to "report" his elder brother to the congregation overseers and notify them that he had his disfellowshipped brother over for a meal and report to them all the other contact he's had with him. Should I do it??