Around 1974, when our daughters were young, my wife wanted to start attending JW meetings. I made big a mistake. I said yes thinking they do need some sort of moral grounding and direction. I completely underestimated the extent of the "grounding" they would receive. In my defense, I had a very stressful demanding, almost overwhelming, job that consumed all my energy and time and I was distracted by that.
I read some of their literature at the time, and found some of it interesting, but then decided it wasnt for me. The biggest issue I had with it was the prediction at the time that "The generation living in 1914 would not pass until the conclusion of all things". I remember mentioning to my wife that one might argue that that generation had already passed and that the prediction was already false in 1974. I vividly remember telling her at the time that even if the generation had not passed, it soon would, and that this prediction was obviously not going to happen. Her only response was, "How do you know?". To me, if I had been a JW at the time, to continue as a JW after that prediction had failed, would be like getting hit with a sledge hammer and not noticing it. Yet, it seems the vast majority of members just rolled with it and never looked back. I often wonder about what the psychology is of knowing something is false and pretending it doesn’t matter.
I have two daughters who are both JW's, and of course my wife. The daughter’s families are JW also.
I am less religious now than if I had never known a JW. The absurdity of the JW religion makes me doubt all religions.
Although things are cordial and pleasant, I consider myself pretty much alone now. Perhaps Im paranoid, but I sense whispering behind my back. I have nothing in common with any of them and although I have quietly accepted things thru the years, I now feel it is not right to remain quiet forever. If I hear any of these one more time: "did you see the new bible?", "which hall is your meeting held?", "convention", "circuit overseer", "they changed our meeting times", or, "our convention is in Fort Smith this year", I might run out of the house screaming. I have considered divorce, and also, turning the tables on them by announcing my dis-fellowship of them. Some would have an emotional problem doing this, but I wouldn’t.
They know of my objections, but Its like I need to smack them in the face with it, make it personal to get their undivided attention so that maybe someone in the mix would be freed.